As a mommy, this is a concept I struggle with so much! When I sit back and think about it, it truly doesn’t make much sense. The reality is, as a busy momma, we need this. Recharging is so very important for an overall healthy family life. I’m hoping my self care ideas for moms will offer you some beneifts in this chaotic life. Prioritizing yourself should be a necessity not a luxury!
I think for myself I get tunnel vision, I am so focused on my little one, my husband, cooking, cleaning, household chores, laundry, and the never ending to-do list. Prior to moving to Germany, I had my career added to this already lengthy list! The reality is, there are not enough hours in the day. How can I possibly think about myself when there is so much else to do?
Self Care Isn’t Selfish
How can I be so selfish? These negative thoughts would tend to find a way to creep in whenever I started thinking about myself.
My husband is very supportive of self care, and often encourages it. In fact, I typically won’t carve time for a scheduled outing unless he insists. I went to Champagne France with a girlfriend for a short weekend. It was amazing! You can check out my trip here: https://harmonizingthechaos.com/reims-champagne-tour-a-two-day-trip/ . Did I feel guilty? Was I constantly thinking about my husband and son? Yes. But I felt so recharged! When I got back from my trip, I felt like I could be a better mother and wife. I had more patience and grace. It was this trip that made me realize how important self care actually is. I’m not sure if it’s more pride, guilt, or the drive to not be selfish- but it is so hard for me to accept the necessity of self care. The fact is, self care isn’t selfish. In fact, self care is self love- and shouldn’t we love ourselves to properly love our families?
What If I’m Too Busy For Self Care?
Self care doesn’t need to be extravagant. It doesn’t need to involve a weekend getaway (although that’s always an extra nice treat!). The reality is, self care for busy moms should be part of our daily routine! Self care means, taking care of ones’ self. That saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup” always hits so close to home for myself. How can we give if we have nothing left in the tank? This cycle often doesn’t lead to a pretty picture. However, if you’re a busy momma like myself, I have great news! Self care can easily be incorporated into your daily routine.
Starting With The Basics
As I mentioned earlier, self care is defined as taking care of one’s self – improving your overall health. Let’s start with the basics!
- Eating well
- Adequate water intake
These may seem to basic to have such an impact, but they are truly the foundation for your health.
Getting enough sleep
As a mother of a toddler, I understand how sleep deprivation can be prevalent. I rarely feel caught up on sleep. I recommend giving yourself a soft bedtime. My husband is a night owl, so it’s tempting for me to stay up late with him- especially when it’s guranteed quality time when the little one is in bed. This soft bedtime allows me to be aware of the time and to plan ahead. The Mayo Clinic has listed six helpful ways to ensure better sleep https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/sleep/art-20048379. I have listed their six suggestions, but please check out the link to read more about them in detail.
- Stick to a sleep schedule
- Pay attention to what you eat and drink
- Create a restful environment
- Limit day time naps
- Inlcude physical activity into your daily routine
- Manage worries
It’s easier to eat a bowl of cereal for dinner (especially when I’m solo parenting), then to cook. The convenience of easy meals, and the need for sugar to function throughout the day can be a slippery slope. Now that I’m taking a hiatus from my career, I’ve been learning how to cook (it’s been a personal goal of mine). Eating better has been a drastic improvement in my life. I’m absolutely not saying to skip the self indulgences- I consider chocolate its own food group. Just be more conscious of the daily choices. Meal prep, or order from a service. Balancing this life is so challenging, figure out what works for you. What is sustainable for your lifestyle.
Don’t forget your water! Set a goal for your water consumption for the day. I recommend easing into it if you’re not a water drinker. Make a small goal of drinking 4 glasses of water throughout the day, and then slowly increase it. If you really dislike the taste of water, add some fruit. These small goals will eventually lead to bigger goals!
At Home Self Care Ideas For Busy Moms
Self care doesnt mean we need to escape, or to have a weekend getaway. It can be easily incorperated into a daily or weekly routine.
Fresh air can do so much good! I always feel better getting outside. Going for a walk (with or without your kids) can be an excellent form of self care. Try to commit a walk into your daily routine, or atleast schedule it for a few days a week. I think this should really be incorporated as self care for stay at home moms. I always try to take my son to a park a few times a week as an outdoor activity.
Conversations with family and friends
Talking with friends and family can be therapeutic. Take this time to catch up, laugh, and maybe even cry. I would limit venting and negative conversations. Let this conversation enhance your day!
Read a book
Carve out 20-30 minutes to get a little reading in.
listen to a podcast
This is a great option if you spend any time in the car. Also in combination with outside time, cooking or cleaning.
keep a journal
Writing down thoughts can be so therapeutic. A journal can be your safe place. When you feel like you are carrying the weight of the world, it’s the perfect place to write down your thoughts. Make sure to include positive affirmations, and accomplishments of the day.
This has always been the most therapeutic activity for myself. Unfortunately, it is so much harder to work out with a toddler! I recommend trying to incorporate your little one into the activity. Take the stroller out for a walk or run. Another alternative is to look for a gym that also provides childcare.
Self Care Ideas For Moms Outside Of The House
Getting away from the house from time to time is a necessity. Even if it’s just for a couple of hours a week. Here are some examples:
- Manicures/ Pedicures
- Coffee date with a friend
- A night out
Don’t Put Self Care On The Backburner
Self care is self love, this is a great reminder we must tell ourselves as busy mommas! Don’t put this on the backburner. As I mentioned earlier, we can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of ourselves is the first step to being a better mother and wife for our families. Be sure to incoprporate some of these selfcare tips for moms into your daily life, and remember that you should also be a priority!